Um, hello — completely unrealistic AND cruel! I would like to suggest that love, in the sense we are talking about here, is in fact better described as nervous system regulation. Self-regulation is the ability to soothe and settle ourselves so we feel safe. Co-regulation is when we help each other settle and feel safe. Just as a mother might settle an upset baby by soothing him or her.
If your primary attachment figures probably Mum and Dad , were not able to give you this in order to develop a healthy nervous system, you instead have to manage a dysregulated system instead. Which leads to the seeking and searching described earlier. This seeking could be constructive or destructive but it is basically the search for the relief from pain resulting from a lack of adequate nurture as a young one. So you can see that in order to love ourselves and share love freely, we first have to have been loved.
ProseAndCons - You're welcome. As you know, a journey always starts with a first step. Keep writing. I really enjoyed the rhyming scheme. Short and simple but conveying emotion all the same. Well done! Richard L Haynes - Excellent job! Love is awesome and you describe your feelings in such a wonderful way. It's not so much of the fact that my friends are either married or in serious relationships that make me want a man for myself.
I crave the intimacy, companionship, and love that a relationship brings. I just wish I had someone I could share my inner thoughts and dreams with, not to sound mushy or corny.. Don't crave it or be jealous because if you do, you'll get or be drawn to a rotten partner or rotten people.
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